The Weaving Circle — Finding Connection and Strength in Community

“We don’t heal by standing alone—we heal by standing together, stitch by stitch, soul by soul, in the sacred circle of ‘we.’” — Mary Coughlin

There’s a moment—after the rupture, after the reckoning—when you look up and realize:

You’re not alone.

Others have been grieving.
Others have been remembering.
Others have been dreaming, weaving, healing—in their own corners of the world.
And suddenly, what felt like a solitary fire becomes a constellation. A circle. A movement.

This is the weaving circle.

Where individual threads become a tapestry.
Where separate struggles find solidarity.
Where care becomes collective courage.

The Myth of Individualism—and the Medicine of Belonging

We’ve been taught to idolize self-reliance. To grind through trauma in isolation. To succeed despite the system instead of healing within it.

But trauma doesn’t heal in a vacuum.
It heals in community.

In trauma-informed developmental care, we know that infants don’t just need food and oxygen—they need relationship.
Touch.
Attunement.
Co-regulation.
Belonging.

Democracy is no different.

Our systems fracture when we forget we are connected.
When we buy into the myth that “freedom” means going it alone.
When we allow policies, profits, and politics to divide us from our shared humanity.

The weaving circle invites us back.
Back to each other.
Back to relationship.
Back to we.

From Caregiver to Culture-Builder

You may be a NICU nurse, a therapist, a parent, a community leader.
You may be weary.
You may be carrying too much.

But let me tell you this: you are a weaver.
Every time you choose compassion over compliance.
Every time you listen deeply, lead gently, or advocate bravely—
You are threading care into the fabric of what’s next.

And here’s the truth we often forget: You don’t have to do it alone.

The circle is already forming.
People everywhere are waking up, reaching out, and reimagining what leadership, care, and democracy can be.

The weaving is happening.
Right now.
And you are part of it.

Reflection Prompt

Who is in your circle of care?
And what might change if you let yourself be held as fiercely as you hold others?

The circle is not a luxury.
It’s the container that holds us steady in uncertain times.
And this movement we’re part of? It’s not about fixing everything.
It’s about remembering that we don’t have to do it alone.

Because in the end, the fabric of the future will not be woven by systems—it will be woven by us.

With care, courage, and an unwavering belief in our capacity to heal,
Weave on, my friend.
—Mary

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